Comments for daytondailyfail.com http://daytondailyfail.com the dayton daily news fails it Wed, 03 Mar 2010 09:06:46 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 Comment on ddf down after technical difficulties by editor http://daytondailyfail.com/index.php/2010/02/28/ddf-down-after-technical-difficulties/comment-page-1/#comment-36 editor Wed, 03 Mar 2010 09:06:46 +0000 http://daytondailyfail.com/?p=60#comment-36 might i add that this site isn't getting a lot of hits and people aren't commenting on any of the stories, either, so i don't know how to really promote it. maybe the page design needs to be improved. might i add that this site isn’t getting a lot of hits and people aren’t commenting on any of the stories, either, so i don’t know how to really promote it. maybe the page design needs to be improved.

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]]> Comment on about DDF by Pay to Play http://daytondailyfail.com/index.php/about/comment-page-1/#comment-23 Pay to Play Thu, 25 Feb 2010 15:46:17 +0000 http://daytondailyfail.com/?page_id=2#comment-23 What happened to this site? What happened to this site?

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]]> Comment on the last thing i saw in dayton: by Vivian http://daytondailyfail.com/index.php/2010/01/29/the-last-thing-i-saw-in-dayton/comment-page-1/#comment-14 Vivian Thu, 04 Feb 2010 16:59:45 +0000 http://daytondailyfail.com/?p=23#comment-14 I've thought a lot about these issues too, and here's what I've concluded so far: Some people learn, as children, that "love" is a dance of dominance and submission. This may manifest subtly in neglect or sarcasm, or more conspicuously in the kind of deranged, violent relationship you describe here. For too many, being mistreated feels normal. In their experience, that's how people who "love" each other behave. A painful connection is less terrifying than the alternative - the abandonment of being not-loved. It's crazy. It's also staggeringly difficult to un-learn this pattern of relating, and it never happens quickly. An outsider can offer insights, direct to resources, provide encouragement for better choices. In an situation where danger is imminent, an outsider can offer temporary safe harbor, or call 911. But ultimately, Americans almost always have the right, as adults, to continue to make really bad choices for themselves. So you did what you COULD do, and the police did what they COLD do, which wasn't much, and you felt it wasn't nearly enough. Evil won the day and and your righteous outrage helped propel you out of the orbit of that particular nexus of despair in Dayton, Ohio. Apathy prevails when individuals are conditioned to believe that nothing they do will make a difference. The dominant news outlets in Dayton perpetuate this belief, along with the notions that a) the world is infinitely dangerous in both evident and insidiously unpredictable ways, so BE AFRAID, and b) heroism is defined by single, conspicuous, dramatic actions that immediately and drastically change the course of events. I, however, suspect that most everything an individual does makes a difference, but usually only a very tiny, incremental difference. Still, we shouldn't be so cowed that we daily squander what power we have by discounting its potential contribution to a cumulative effect, for good or ill. I also imagine that there's a deeper, truer kind of heroism - low on spectacle or dramatic effect. It consists of continually performing small acts of virtue, despite their apparent futility. The night you fled, you cared enough to do what you could reasonably do. That’s not cowardice. You could have done nothing, but you said “this is bad and needs to be stopped.” If that woman hears that message over and over again, she may eventually believe it enough to let people help her change. Maybe not. But because you were there, she heard it one more time. So here’s to those plucky realists who choose to speak the truth, light the single candle, throw that one starfish back into the sea. Heros enough. Enjoy the sunshine! I’ve thought a lot about these issues too, and here’s what I’ve concluded so far:
Some people learn, as children, that “love” is a dance of dominance and submission. This may manifest subtly in neglect or sarcasm, or more conspicuously in the kind of deranged, violent relationship you describe here. For too many, being mistreated feels normal. In their experience, that’s how people who “love” each other behave. A painful connection is less terrifying than the alternative – the abandonment of being not-loved.
It’s crazy.
It’s also staggeringly difficult to un-learn this pattern of relating, and it never happens quickly. An outsider can offer insights, direct to resources, provide encouragement for better choices. In an situation where danger is imminent, an outsider can offer temporary safe harbor, or call 911. But ultimately, Americans almost always have the right, as adults, to continue to make really bad choices for themselves.

So you did what you COULD do, and the police did what they COLD do, which wasn’t much, and you felt it wasn’t nearly enough. Evil won the day and and your righteous outrage helped propel you out of the orbit of that particular nexus of despair in Dayton, Ohio.
Apathy prevails when individuals are conditioned to believe that nothing they do will make a difference. The dominant news outlets in Dayton perpetuate this belief, along with the notions that a) the world is infinitely dangerous in both evident and insidiously unpredictable ways, so BE AFRAID, and b) heroism is defined by single, conspicuous, dramatic actions that immediately and drastically change the course of events.

I, however, suspect that most everything an individual does makes a difference, but usually only a very tiny, incremental difference. Still, we shouldn’t be so cowed that we daily squander what power we have by discounting its potential contribution to a cumulative effect, for good or ill. I also imagine that there’s a deeper, truer kind of heroism – low on spectacle or dramatic effect. It consists of continually performing small acts of virtue, despite their apparent futility.

The night you fled, you cared enough to do what you could reasonably do. That’s not cowardice. You could have done nothing, but you said “this is bad and needs to be stopped.” If that woman hears that message over and over again, she may eventually believe it enough to let people help her change. Maybe not. But because you were there, she heard it one more time.

So here’s to those plucky realists who choose to speak the truth, light the single candle, throw that one starfish back into the sea. Heros enough.
Enjoy the sunshine!

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]]> Comment on once again, comment here since you can’t comment there by the editor http://daytondailyfail.com/index.php/2010/02/01/once-again-comment-here-since-you-cant-comment-there/comment-page-1/#comment-13 the editor Mon, 01 Feb 2010 12:44:39 +0000 http://daytondailyfail.com/index.php/2010/02/01/once-again-comment-here-since-you-cant-comment-there/#comment-13 it really makes you wonder why a simple story about an apartment building fire has blocked comments. why? it really makes you wonder why a simple story about an apartment building fire has blocked comments. why?

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]]> Comment on comments are not being accepted on this article (on ddn) by the editor http://daytondailyfail.com/index.php/2010/01/30/user-comments-are-not-being-accepted-on-this-article/comment-page-1/#comment-11 the editor Sun, 31 Jan 2010 01:59:49 +0000 http://daytondailyfail.com/index.php/2010/01/30/user-comments-are-not-being-accepted-on-this-article/#comment-11 why wouldn't they allow comments on this article? why wouldn’t they allow comments on this article?

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]]> Comment on Sheriff’s deputy involved in multi-vehicle accident by Dee http://daytondailyfail.com/index.php/2010/01/28/sheriff%e2%80%99s-deputy-involved-in-multi-vehicle-accident/comment-page-1/#comment-10 Dee Sat, 30 Jan 2010 22:08:01 +0000 http://daytondailyfail.com/?p=6#comment-10 This is hilarious. The only thing funnier is the gold that comes from the early morning reporters and anchors on Channel 7 news. This is hilarious. The only thing funnier is the gold that comes from the early morning reporters and anchors on Channel 7 news.

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]]> Comment on Crooked Sheriff has his cronies shred the evidence by dayton politix http://daytondailyfail.com/index.php/2010/01/28/crooked-sheriff-has-his-cronies-shred-the-evidence/comment-page-1/#comment-9 dayton politix Fri, 29 Jan 2010 19:00:02 +0000 http://daytondailyfail.com/index.php/2010/01/28/crooked-sheriff-has-his-cronies-shred-the-evidence/#comment-9 the real story is here: http://daytonos.com/?p=8396 the real story is here:
http://daytonos.com/?p=8396

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]]> Comment on Crooked Sheriff has his cronies shred the evidence by Bridget http://daytondailyfail.com/index.php/2010/01/28/crooked-sheriff-has-his-cronies-shred-the-evidence/comment-page-1/#comment-8 Bridget Fri, 29 Jan 2010 17:55:17 +0000 http://daytondailyfail.com/index.php/2010/01/28/crooked-sheriff-has-his-cronies-shred-the-evidence/#comment-8 Strike 2. Strike 2.

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]]> Comment on about DDF by daytondailyfail.com launches http://daytondailyfail.com/index.php/about/comment-page-1/#comment-7 daytondailyfail.com launches Fri, 29 Jan 2010 16:27:11 +0000 http://daytondailyfail.com/?page_id=2#comment-7 [...] via daytondailyfail.com » about daytondailyfail.com. [...] [...] via daytondailyfail.com » about daytondailyfail.com. [...]

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]]> Comment on Crooked Sheriff has his cronies shred the evidence by the editor http://daytondailyfail.com/index.php/2010/01/28/crooked-sheriff-has-his-cronies-shred-the-evidence/comment-page-1/#comment-6 the editor Fri, 29 Jan 2010 04:33:45 +0000 http://daytondailyfail.com/index.php/2010/01/28/crooked-sheriff-has-his-cronies-shred-the-evidence/#comment-6 once again, comments are "closed" for this article on the daytondailynews.com website. too controversial to let their readers speak their mind on something that actually matters? once again, comments are “closed” for this article on the daytondailynews.com website. too controversial to let their readers speak their mind on something that actually matters?

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